NTCC Pastors Taking Their Liberties With Another Man's Family Members

Thread #44 The point of Diana's post was two fold: 1: Be careful when an NTCC preacher says that God told him something. That occurrence most likely never happened. 2: Don't let an NTCC pastor take or assume authority over your family. The husband is the head of the family not the NTCC pastor. NTCC pastors have no business ordering around other men's wives or calling their children to question them. These NTCC pastors have totally overstepped their bounds.

My wife just reminded me of a perfect example. When we were in the church in Atlanta, my wife and I used to simultaneously drive both of our vehicles all over Atlanta to pick folks up for church services. The vast majority of members in the Atlanta church at that time didn't even own a vehicle, or if they did it was constantly breaking down which was the case with two brothers that come to mind. So as a result, the pastor wanted me to run my two vehicles into the ground so to speak. We were spending an extensive amount of money just getting folks back and forth to church because Atlanta was a big city and in addition to that, we lived about 25 min from the church before we even left to pick up the first soul. My family frequently traveled to church separately with my wife picking up people in thug infested ghettos. I decided to put a stop to the two vehicle church delivery business.

I called pastor Mayers and explained to him that I was intending to discontinue the practice of driving two separate vehicles to church at the same time. He got upset to say the least. (Just for information, at that time Mayers rarely if ever used his van to pick folks up for church but he had no problem with me using both of my vehicles.) I proceeded to tell him that I was the one who paid for the insurance, registration, and cost of upkeep and it was my responsibility to balance my budget and assets. I also told him that I had heard RWD preach about financial management and as a result I determined that I was not effectively managing my finances and assets if I allowed that practice to continue. Boy did he get mad. Mayers had gotten in the habit of giving my wife instructions without consulting me first. Then I put the icing on the cake. I told him that if he wanted my wife to pick folks up for church he was to consult me first. I gave my wife the same instructions. I had decided that to allow another man to order my wife around was no longer an option and it was going to stop for two reasons: the man was abusive like too many other NTCC pastors, and she was my wife not his.

So later on my wife was in one of his Sunday school meetings. Mayers had asked my wife if she would agree to teach Sunday school full time while taking his wife, the other minister's wife, and the other ministers off the roster completely because they were tired of teaching Sunday school. My wife refused to give him an answer before she consulted me which was the "RIGHT ANSWER". Mayers then proceeded to grill my wife for an answer on at least three more occasions during the meeting. Once again Mayers got extremely upset about my wife refusing to give him an answer. On the way home she informed me of what had happened. Once at home, I called Mayers to inform him that my wife was no longer going to teach Sunday school at all. For the next three services he blasted my wife across the pulpit. While preaching he said things like, "just because you wear a dress and play the piano doesn't mean you're saved" and "some people here think they are too good to teach Sunday school" and "some folks don't want anything to do with those snotty nose kids" and "if you don't want to do it I don't need you because I have other people who can" and "thank you sister so and so for answering the call of God because some folks don't want to"!!!!! I should have left his church for good in the middle of the first blasting which would have prevented the subsequent ones from ever taking place. I have great regrets in that regard. Believe it or not I have forgiven Mayers but I WILL never forget and I firmly realize that he has no business remaining as a pastor over anyone.

So the moral of the story is don't let some sorry NTCC minister like RWD or Kekel or Mayers or any of the rest of them tell your wives or family members a single solitary thing unless you are present. And husbands, if you don't agree with what the pastors have to say to your family, then shut them down because it is highly improbable that their directives came from God in the first place.

Jeff